Bullism is a condition caused by hider indoctrination, or by violent trauma or experiences.
With the following I will explain how through experience as a professional martial arts trainer for professional fighters, I have learned how to bent their will, and turn them into normal human beings.
Obviously when dealing with bullism, the first thing you should attempt to do is to denounce the bully to the authorities, don’t fall for provocations, and get away from disturbed or deranged people, but since some times you are not allowed to do so, than you must be able to protect your self, family or friends, and make sure that the bulling stops.
As I have just mentioned, I have been working for many years as a professional trainer and teacher of various martial arts.
During my years of first hand experience, in dealing with people which wanted to be my students, professional fighters’s sparring partner, and street bullies, I have encounter many bullies, and regularly turned them into good sheep.
As I explained, there are two kinds of bullies, the first type, the harder to bend, are those which have been indoctrinated to idiotic superiority ideals, which makes them pretty much chronically defected in their brains.
Unfortunately this type is the worst and harder to convince.
The second type and more common type, is made up by traumatized people, which witness or victims of domestic violence and aggression, afraid and psychotic, take out that violence and aggression on others.
In both cases, bullies are so full of them selfs that don’t realize the difference between what goes through their mind, and the reality they are sharing with the rest of the world.
In fact they pretend to be so sure of them selfs, while in reality, they are shocked and afraid of others that they lock them selfs into an aggressive mode, typical of schizophrenic persons.
Both types are mentally sick, and the proof is in the fact that when made to confront defeat on the ring, they ”ALWAYS HAND UP PISSING THEM SELFS!”
I have seen this over and over, in fact, I remember of the times I was teaching for the number 1 Gym, which was also owner of the than largest Thai boxing stadium in Thailand “PB Bangkok” , how we used to make betts, on who among the new students of the Gym was going to piss him self.
In fact, because the answer was always so obvious, we “with the other teachers” had to bet on how many seconds it would take before they did it.
“This is so you understand why real martial arts Gyms smell like they do”
Piss and blood.
Unfortunately, while the first is sufficient to make the traumatized bully come to his senses, the second one is a must for the harder type. (Please if it comes to that be carful not hurt him to much)
Attention though.
This is not an incitement to violence, which is the last resort, and should only be used for defense, but something to make you understand that while the average bully can be brought to his senses with a minimum of ass kicking, The later must be seriously humiliated and “forcefully” made to agree to the reasons why what is happening to it is being done.
In other words, nocking sense into someone, is sometimes the only solution to the problem, and if you make him understand the reason why he as end up in a paddle of is own piss, you will actually help that person in getting over his fears and idiotic ideals, turning him into a regular fellow.
Clearly you should never go after a bully, and for as much as you can, you should always try to avoid physical confrontation, but if the situation brings you to a physical fight, you must be extremely careful, as the level of aggression expressed by bullies, is always extremely violent, hence you must look at the threat as an extreme one, and act or react in kind till you have subdued the bully and made him urinate his pants.
Pissing him self is the key which opens his mind to a reality which will make him understand he was wrong.
In all the years of experiences in and on the side of a ring, I have seen many come and go, and I have witnessed first hand “literally” how a bully can be turned into a good person by knocking som sense in it, but be careful, and if you can not find help from the authorities to solve your problem, take some friends with you to make sure you can subdue the idiot without hurting him too much.
And most important, make sure he understands and accepts the reason why what happened had happened, and if you can, make friends with him, after all we are all humans, and humans can change.
Bruce lee told that when you are confronted by an enemy, you should be like water.
I say, when you are dealing with a bully, you must be like fire.
Sol.